Parenting Orders in Ontario: 10 Things Parents Must Understand
Parenting after separation can be overwhelming. In Ontario, the law uses parenting orders to guide families through decision-making and parenting time. These orders are designed to protect children’s well-being while providing clarity for parents. Here are ten key things you should know.
1. Parenting orders replaced “custody” and “access”
Ontario courts no longer use outdated terms like custody and access. Instead, they issue parenting agreements that focus on decision-making responsibility and parenting time. This modern language reduces conflict and keeps the focus on children, not parental disputes.
2. Parenting orders document parenting time and decision-making
Parenting orders, agreements, and plans document decisions on parenting time (when a child spends time with each parent) and decision-making responsibility (who decides major issues like schooling, health, and religion).
Learn more about parenting plans here.
3. The child’s best interests always come first
Courts decide based on the best interests of the child. Factors include safety, stability, cultural connections, and sibling relationships. Parents’ wishes are secondary.
Read how father’s rights fit into parenting orders.
4. Parenting orders can be detailed or flexible
Some families need highly specific schedules covering pickups, holidays, and extracurriculars. Others benefit from broader frameworks. Courts tailor orders to reduce conflict and support the child’s growth.
See what happens if parenting time is refused.
5. Cooperation is expected, even with a court order
Parenting orders don’t replace cooperation. Parents should still communicate, adapt, and problem-solve together. When parents undermine each other, children often suffer. Courts encourage respectful co-parenting whenever possible.
Dealing with a difficult ex? Learn more here.
6. Not all disputes require litigation
While courts issue the final order, families often reach agreement through mediation or negotiation. These collaborative processes save money, time, and stress. Once approved, they become binding court orders.
Learn about separation agreements here.
7. Parenting orders are legally binding
Parenting orders are not suggestions. Once granted, parents must follow them. Ignoring terms—like refusing handovers or making unilateral decisions—can result in legal consequences and undermine a parent’s credibility.
Read about enforcing visitation rights.
8. Breaches have serious consequences
Repeated violations, such as blocking parenting time, can lead to fines, contempt findings, or even changes in where the child lives. Courts prioritize stability for the child above all else.
Find out how courts respond to refusals of parenting time.
9. Parenting orders can be changed if circumstances shift
Relocation, job changes, or evolving child needs may require a new arrangement. Parents can apply to vary the order through a motion to change. Courts reassess using the best interests test.
Learn about motions to change parenting time.
10. Parenting orders are about stability, not winners and losers
The goal of a parenting order is to protect the child’s stability, not reward or punish either parent. Predictable routines and secure environments help children adjust and thrive during family transitions.
Read more about moving with a child after separation.
Final Thoughts
Parenting orders bring clarity and stability during difficult family transitions. By understanding them, parents can focus on cooperation and create a secure environment where children can thrive.
At the start of a case, documents must usually be delivered by “special service.” This means hand-delivery or another method that guarantees the respondent actually receives them. Later in the process, “ordinary service,” like email or regular mail, may be allowed. The rules recognize that notice is essential for justice, and they demand reliable methods to protect both parties.
