Separation Agreements

A strong agreement covers more than just custody and support. It addresses the practical, everyday realities of parenting after separation. Some key areas include:

– Parenting schedules – Specify regular parenting time, including weekdays, weekends, holidays, and vacations. Clarity avoids last-minute disputes.

– Pick-up and drop-off logistics – Agreements should name the location (for example, the child’s school or one parent’s driveway), the times, and even the ground rules. Parents often include provisions like staying in the car, avoiding arguments during exchanges, leaving promptly, or having a neutral third party present if needed.

– Special days and traditions – Children thrive when they know what to expect. Agreements can address how birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and major holidays will be handled. Families may also add provisions for cultural or religious celebrations that are meaningful to them.

– Decision-making responsibilities – Specify who makes decisions about health, education, religion, and extracurricular activities. Joint decision-making may work well for some, while others require a clear division of responsibilities.

– Support arrangements – Outline child support, including how special or extraordinary expenses (like tutoring or sports) will be shared. If spousal support applies, include the amount and duration.

– Communication rules – Agreements can include guidelines for respectful communication, use of parenting apps, or limits on involving the children in adult matters.